The month of March was not my best blogging month.
I was busy, tired, and totally lacked motivation to even open my computer most nights to comment, read blogs or even write a post.
I was definitely lacking in the inspiration department.
And it was truly bothering me.
I really like blogging. I'm glad I was brave enough last summer to start.
I love documenting my life. Sharing my thoughts and ideas. Meeting other sweet bloggers.
It's a world of it's own. And you don't really understand it until you get into it for awhile.
It requires a sense of bravery. To put yourself out there to the world is scary.
But it's also empowering.
For me, it's not realistic to have a post every. single. day. Some days, I just can't get around to it. But the days I don't, I feel off. Like I've forgotten something. I love going home and seeing how people have responded to my posts, or reading other's from the day. It brings some added excitement. But one of the big reasons I was lacking inspiration to blog was due to this internal debate.
To blog, or not to blog.
That was the question.
I kept asking myself, "Why am I blogging?"
I felt like I had lost the purpose of why I was in this blog world.
I had nothing exciting to share. I didn't have cute ideas for posts. I don't have time to take pictures of the food I make for dinner, nor does it ever look that pretty. I don't have time for DIY crafts. What the heck was I doing here? Do I care how many followers I have? Do I want to be one of those popular bloggers? Do I care if I have sponsorships? Do I care if people like or not? What do I even want out of blogging?
But then I kinda came to my senses.
I'm blogging for ME.
My friends. My family. My experiences. My opinions. My thoughts. My life.
The purpose for this blog is to keep my memories and every day life documented.
To share with my loved ones, and to hopefully relate to others and maybe inspire others along the way. The amount of followers I have shouldn't matter. Even though the more the merrier! I love my followers, and feel so blessed that so many people find what I have to say interesting. But I'm not blogging for others. I'm blogging for me.
It's okay that I don't have time for the cute DIY projects and sharing recipes.
Maybe one day I will, and it'll be fun! But I need to blog what comes naturally, or it's just not going to be me.
I can really relate to this post, and I'm sure so many others can too. Blogging is fun, but what I've learned so far is that often times it comes with a lot of self doubt; always feeling like you need to be doing better, posting more, having the most interesting posts, etc. I always tell myself that I probably would be actually "doing better" if I stopped having such negative thoughts about what it is that I'm doing. Oh the internal struggle!!! All that to say that you're not alone! :)
YES! you totally have to only blog for you! Your readers will love your content becaues they like you. I used my blogging as an online journal for so long. It still is, but sometimes I get the creativity bug [very few times haha]. I really enjoyed having my blog through my wedding planning, just as a place to look to when I need to be sappy, sad, happy, or to just vent. Keep on keepin' on!
I am in the same rut right now! Last year I LOVED sharing my life on my blog with my friends, family, and readers when Dom and I moved to South Florida. Life was exciting and so was this blog! Then, we had to come up to PA for a year and I feel like I hit a rut. I was sad we had to move, and didn't know if it would be just for a year or 4 years. With Dom in medical school and me having no friends, I literally had nothing exciting to write about! I went from getting 20+ comments per post to around 5. At first it really bothered me, and I thought about not blogging at all. But then I realized that my family still likes to hear about my life, regardless of how boring, and in a few years I'll want to look back on this not-so-great time too. Once we move back to Florida life will be more exciting and hopefully my blog will be more exciting to readers too. But if not? That's okay! I'll still love looking back on our medical school and wedding journey. :) Sorry for the book!
If you ask me, my favorite blogs are based on quality and not quantity of posts. Everyone loves a good link-up now and then, but if that's all you ever post, then it's totally impersonal and, to me, takes away the point of blogging all together. I feel like as wedding time approaches, and especially afterwards, you'll have so much more things to document and share.. we'll just call right now the winter rut.
I think we all evaluate why we are blogging from time to time. It is so easy to get caught up in comparing our lives to others. Some days it is hard to think of a topic to write about, and when those days his...I just don't post. I don't want to just put something together just because...I want it to be because I really had something to say...or some experience to share. You just keep doing what you are doing and make it about you!
Totally agree girl! I actually just blogged today about comparing myself and my writing to other peoples blogs! Thanks for sharing! www.blissandblundersofanewlywed.blogspot.com
I've actually been having a rough time recently because I feel like blogging is a "club" and I'm not included. I loved this post because it reminded me why I blog - and it isn't for other people!! Thanks for the reminder. Blogging is about me.
Goodness girl I feel the same way sometimes! But you are so right that you gotta do it for you. And if that means taking a break every now and then, then that is just fine! I get on myself sometimes that I super slack (which I do) but then I think that if I am not blogging that just means I am busy being with my family and that is A-OK with me :) Everyone can relate to that. Your blog is super cute! Keep doing what you are doing and it will all work out
I totally feel this a lot b/c I guess I put in way more effort than I get in return. and sometimes I think what's the point.
Just letting you know I'm following you. Would love to have you come check me out and hopefully follow me back http://nightowlventing02.blogspot.com/2014/04/have-you-asked-him.html
I seriously think something must be in the air, because this is the 3rd post I've read about blogging and people contemplating why they're blogging, who they're blogging for, as well as the temptation to compare their blogs to others. I feel this way all the time. Blogging is such a blessing to me, and I'm so thankful for this little community! Thank you for your honesty, friend! :)
I went through this exact same thing this month and it stunk! I hope you can get back into the swing of things(me too!)! But I agree on doing it for me. Because if I wasnt doing this for me I wouldnt still be here!
Love Always, Elizabeth thejourneycreatingme.blogspot.com
Totally true about needing a sense of bravery!! It's not easy to put yourself out there!
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I can really relate to this post, and I'm sure so many others can too. Blogging is fun, but what I've learned so far is that often times it comes with a lot of self doubt; always feeling like you need to be doing better, posting more, having the most interesting posts, etc. I always tell myself that I probably would be actually "doing better" if I stopped having such negative thoughts about what it is that I'm doing. Oh the internal struggle!!! All that to say that you're not alone! :)
ReplyDeleteYES! you totally have to only blog for you! Your readers will love your content becaues they like you. I used my blogging as an online journal for so long. It still is, but sometimes I get the creativity bug [very few times haha]. I really enjoyed having my blog through my wedding planning, just as a place to look to when I need to be sappy, sad, happy, or to just vent. Keep on keepin' on!
ReplyDeleteGreat post- I felt the same way over the past few months! I'm glad you're sticking with it :)
ReplyDeleteI am in the same rut right now! Last year I LOVED sharing my life on my blog with my friends, family, and readers when Dom and I moved to South Florida. Life was exciting and so was this blog! Then, we had to come up to PA for a year and I feel like I hit a rut. I was sad we had to move, and didn't know if it would be just for a year or 4 years. With Dom in medical school and me having no friends, I literally had nothing exciting to write about! I went from getting 20+ comments per post to around 5. At first it really bothered me, and I thought about not blogging at all. But then I realized that my family still likes to hear about my life, regardless of how boring, and in a few years I'll want to look back on this not-so-great time too. Once we move back to Florida life will be more exciting and hopefully my blog will be more exciting to readers too. But if not? That's okay! I'll still love looking back on our medical school and wedding journey. :) Sorry for the book!
ReplyDeleteyes yes yes!!
ReplyDeleteIf you ask me, my favorite blogs are based on quality and not quantity of posts. Everyone loves a good link-up now and then, but if that's all you ever post, then it's totally impersonal and, to me, takes away the point of blogging all together. I feel like as wedding time approaches, and especially afterwards, you'll have so much more things to document and share.. we'll just call right now the winter rut.
I think we all evaluate why we are blogging from time to time. It is so easy to get caught up in comparing our lives to others. Some days it is hard to think of a topic to write about, and when those days his...I just don't post. I don't want to just put something together just because...I want it to be because I really had something to say...or some experience to share. You just keep doing what you are doing and make it about you!
ReplyDeleteTotally agree girl! I actually just blogged today about comparing myself and my writing to other peoples blogs! Thanks for sharing! www.blissandblundersofanewlywed.blogspot.com
DeleteI've actually been having a rough time recently because I feel like blogging is a "club" and I'm not included. I loved this post because it reminded me why I blog - and it isn't for other people!! Thanks for the reminder. Blogging is about me.
ReplyDeleteGoodness girl I feel the same way sometimes! But you are so right that you gotta do it for you. And if that means taking a break every now and then, then that is just fine! I get on myself sometimes that I super slack (which I do) but then I think that if I am not blogging that just means I am busy being with my family and that is A-OK with me :) Everyone can relate to that. Your blog is super cute! Keep doing what you are doing and it will all work out
ReplyDeleteThe #1 reason why you should blog! :) Lately I have not had a post for everyday and that is totally okay!
ReplyDeleteTotally feel you. When it's no longer fun, a break is in order! Xx.
ReplyDeleteI totally feel this a lot b/c I guess I put in way more effort than I get in return. and sometimes I think what's the point.
ReplyDeleteJust letting you know I'm following you. Would love to have you come check me out and hopefully follow me back http://nightowlventing02.blogspot.com/2014/04/have-you-asked-him.html
I seriously think something must be in the air, because this is the 3rd post I've read about blogging and people contemplating why they're blogging, who they're blogging for, as well as the temptation to compare their blogs to others. I feel this way all the time. Blogging is such a blessing to me, and I'm so thankful for this little community! Thank you for your honesty, friend! :)
ReplyDeleteLove this! Truly inspired by you as usual! Love your heart dear! :)
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely! I completely feel you!
ReplyDeleteGreat post- I felt the same way over the past few months! I'm glad you're sticking with it :)
ReplyDeleteI went through this exact same thing this month and it stunk! I hope you can get back into the swing of things(me too!)! But I agree on doing it for me. Because if I wasnt doing this for me I wouldnt still be here!
ReplyDeleteLove Always,
Elizabeth
thejourneycreatingme.blogspot.com